Picking Up Women

Every man dreams of a perfect way to pick up women. Reading books about the art of picking up women or listening to speakers or self-proclaimed gurus will give you an insight on the subject, but none of it will do you any good if you do not have the perfect combination of several characteristics that most women want in a man. An very important one is confidence.

Most men find it hard to ask women out on a date for one simple reason: fear of rejection. Come to think of it, men are not really afraid of asking women out, it is the rejection that they most likely fear. Once you accept that rejection is part of the game, and that you are prepared to face rejection, then you will find that asking women out on a date is really not that hard.

The first thing you should do before picking up women or asking them for a date is change your way of thinking. Asking a friend to hang out is much easier than asking a woman out. Now, why is that? Maybe because when you ask a friend, you do not expect anything, you just want to have fun. You should think that way when you pick a woman up or ask her out on a date. You might say it is easier said than done, but ask yourself, is it really? Do you hesitate to ask a friend to go watch a movie or have coffee? Once you change the way you think, it becomes easier to pick women up.

Instead of asking the girl you are attracted to for a dinner date; why not just ask her to have a drink or two. Asking her to have coffee is much easier because it is more casual. It lessens the pressure, for the both of you. Just stating the facts goes a long way toward an effective pick up. Saying something like: “You look like a really interesting woman and I’d like to chat with you for a while. Can we grab a cup of coffee?” is often all you need to do.

A dinner date puts a lot of pressure, especially picking out the restaurant or choosing an outfit. Going out for coffee after work is more casual, don’t you agree? Once both of you are comfortable enough, then you can go ahead and ask her out to dinner. Keeping things simple is essential. If you think you are nervous, imagine what she might be feeling, especially if she is also attracted to you. Basically, you are making things easy for the both of you.

If you are planning to ask a woman out, do so at an appropriate time. Timing is everything. Asking her in person is also better than asking on the phone, because physical interactions and facial expressions really do mean a lot. In addition, you can observe her body language and see if she digs you as well. If she frequently avoids eye contact, she is probably looking for a way out. But if all goes well, you can go ahead and ask her to have a drink with you, but make it more like a suggestion rather than a question. Get her preference when it comes to drinks and the coffee shops or clubs that she might prefer. Set up the time and place you both want to meet and do not forget to exchange phone numbers.

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